Relationship Advice Blog: “Integrity is not what you do, it’s what you WON’T do.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-Selling Author

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QUOTE: Integrity is not what you do, it’s what you WON’T do.

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day: Many people falsely believe that integrity is associated with what you do. But, in fact, integrity, as I see it, is what you won’t do whether people are watching or not.

For instance, in politics, some candidates are willing to win their elections at any cost. They will lie, cheat, slander someone’s name– you name it. Those individuals that engage in such practices do NOT have integrity.

A person that chooses to run a clean campaign, absent all of those shenanigans, has integrity. Again, integrity is not what you will do but what you WON’T. The same goes for relationships.

A Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers that fidelity and commitment to another demonstrates integrity. The choice not to cheat on a mate is a sign that one possesses some form of integrity. If the relationship is not working and seems irreparable, the choice to take the high road and end the relationship before the cheating begins is a decision guided by personal integrity.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if you get caught cheating in elections or relationships, you will still have to live with the knowledge that you lack integrity.  It’s not what you do when people are watching, it’s what you do when they’re not.

 

The Author, Tonja Wicks,  will be a featured speaker at the 2014 So Cal Women’s Health Expo in October. Tonja Wicks will also be a featured speaker on relationships on the EVS Network Virtual Teleconference in February, alongside TV Judge Glenda Hatchett, Life Coach, Christina Young, Psychologist, Dr. Gloria Morrow, and conference creator, Sharon Jarrett.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

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Relationship Advice Blog: “Use What’s in Your Hand.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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QUOTE: “Use what’s in your hand.”

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day:  GOD has equipped each one of us with gifts, talents and treasures that we may not have tapped into. Many times the answer to our prayers is already in our hands, minds and body. So use what is already in your hands.

A Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers to exhaust every option that they can control before seeking their mate to make a change. We must first work on ourselves—because we all still need work– before we can demand of others.

In doing so, we advise to use what’s in your hand, because we all possess great and infinite potential. If you’re happy with yourself and what you create and accomplish, you will be confident to cheer and encourage your mate to achieve his/her best life. It all starts with you. If not, you will be the reason you man cheats….

The Author, Tonja Wicks,  will be a featured speaker on relationships on the EVS Network Virtual Teleconference in February, alongside TV Judge Glenda Hatchett, Life Coach, Christina Young, Psychologist, Dr. Gloria Morrow, and conference creator, Sharon Jarrett.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice Blog: “Never leave the words ‘I LOVE YOU’ left unsaid”, By Author and Motivational Speaker, Tonja Wicks

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“Never leave the words ‘I LOVE YOU’ left unsaid”

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day:  We all regret things we may have done or should have done in the past.  The greatest regret one feels is over a lost love or love not realized. Don’t let fear, time, distance or pride keep you from telling another that you love them. Be true to thyself. Don’t worry how it will be received.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers to examine their own actions and motives. What you do in a relationship should not be contingent upon what your partner does or does not do. Your loving actions and behavior can set the tone for a renewed and passionate encounter and relationship. Sometimes one partner is waiting for the other to demonstrate love first.

If you feel it in your heart–act it out. As the Good Book says, “Desire deferred makes the heart sick; love fulfilled is like a tree of life.” Don’t hurt yourself trying to hurt another. In the end, you will be filled with regret. Be confident in knowing that you weren’t the reason the relationship didn’t have an opportunity to flourish. Don’t keep the words ‘I LOVE YOU’ to yourself.

The Author will be a featured speaker on relationships on the EVS Network Virtual Teleconference in February, alongside TV Judge Glenda Hatchett, Life Coach, Christina Young, Psychologist, Dr. Gloria Morrow, and conference creator, Sharon Jarrett.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “Worrying is a choice. Troubles come to every life but worries come only to those who decide to dwell on them.” By Tonja Wicks

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“Worrying is a choice. Troubles come to every life but worries come only to those who decide to dwell on them.”

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day: While life will not always be a bed of roses, the trials of life can be managed and overcome if we spend our time finding solutions instead of excuses. Worry and regret stills our joy. We worry because we usually get stuck in inaction and accept the trial or problem as permanent. Most problems are temporary until we get crippled by worry and choose not to act and change our way out of the situation.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers to assess the relationship and then take action to change themselves and thus the relationship. However, the easiest way to stop yourself from action is to get mired in worry and regret. You worry because you do not take control of your situation and attempt to change it. You can’t wait for someone else to change first. You must change your situation first by changing the way you think, speak, act and feel.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “The future you desire is already present; it must first be present in your mind before it can ever be present in time. ” By Author Tonja Wicks

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“The future you desire is already present; it must first be present in your mind before it can ever be present in time. ” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day:  There is a scripture in the “Good Book” that says, “write the vision and make it plain…for the vision is yet for an appointed time.” In order for your future to manifest you have to see in your mind how it will look. In order to keep that vision of your future you must write it down, paint it, take a picture of it so it remains in the forefront of your sight and thoughts. If you don’t memorialize your dreams and visions, they will constantly change and never fully be obtained.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise readers to close their eyes and visualize the relationship they want to have: How do you want your mate to speak to you, kiss you, make love to you, support you, etc. Also, you must also visualize how you see yourself responding to your mate. Now the expectation is set, now add belief and determination, and the manifestation will come.

We believe you can have whatever it is you pray and believe for, e.g. perfect mate, perfect relationship, dream job, new business, book deal, etc.

Book Appearances: The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” will be featured at the upcoming NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “When you look over your life don’t boast about how much you worked but how much you loved.” By Tonja Wicks

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“When you look over your life don’t boast about  how much you worked but how much you loved.”

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day:  It is important to constantly evaluate your life and ask yourself am I truly happy. The answer to that question should set a course in your life to pursue what makes you happy or continue doing the things that are currently making you happy. If the answer to the question is NO, then what are you willing to do to claim your happiness? True happiness usually involves loving someone, i.e. yourself, your mate, your family, etc.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that you should constantly reevaluate what you spend your time doing. The priority should be spending time with your mate or loved one. If you think you don’t have time, you may need to cut back on outside activities in order to devote the time needed to nurture the relationship. We like to ask in the book, are you willing to do whatever it takes to be happy in the relationship?

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1. What do you consider important?

2. What box do you fall in?

3. Are you able to boast about both the work you accomplished and the people you loved?

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” will be featured at the upcoming NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “Destiny isn’t a destination; it’s more like a journey down a never-ending road that you pull over from time to time to experience the fulfillment of your heart’s desires. By Author Tonja Wicks

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“Destiny isn’t a destination; it’s more like a journey down a never-ending road that you pull over from time  to time to experience the fulfillment of your heart’s desires. By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day: If you’re waiting for your destiny to hit you in the head you’ll be waiting a long time. I believe you walk into your destiny. So in order to do that you have to keep going through life one step at a time until you reach it, live through it and come out of it into its next enhanced phase. The culmination of these joyful experiences is your destiny. Once you attain what you’ve desired, a new desire will be placed in your spirit and this the journey continues.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that finding that perfect loving relationship is like destiny. You don’t just get to it and rest and say ureka! I’ve conquered the mountain. You must continue to nurture the relationship and enjoy the experience. In order to do that we say you must keep the relationship as fresh and new as the first day you met your mate. That means remembering some of those same loving things you used to do and do them again. We all like what we first fell in love with, i.e., constant compliments, affection and attention. So why would you think your mate doesn’t want those same things anymore? Right… He or she does. So continue to walk the journey… you will the happier for it on this road of destiny.

The Author and new book, , “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.” Will be featured at the upcoming  New York Book Expo of America “New Title Showcase” on  May 29-June 1.

The Author was also  featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “The things you feel are wrong with your life didn’t happen all of a sudden so don’t expect everything to change overnight. Change, too, is a gradual process. However the ‘decision’ to change and be happy is immediate.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“The things you feel are wrong with your life didn’t happen all of a sudden so don’t expect everything to change overnight. Change, too, is a gradual process. However the ‘decision’ to change and be happy is immediate.”

Reason of the Day: Change first happens in the mind. You must first accept that there are areas that need change in your life and determine in your mind that you are willing to do what it takes to make that change your new reality. The change and happiness you seek won’t come over night; just like the dysfunction didn’t happen overnight. However, the decision to make the change and be happy can and should be immediate. Make the decision right now.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers that you must acknowledge the dysfunction in your relationship and determine in your mind to change it. We ask are you willing to do whatever it takes to change the situation and grasp your happiness. If the answer is YES, you are well on your way to the love and relationship of your dreams. If your answer is NO, or many excuses follow, you are destined for heartache and unhappiness. Why live and love beneath you privilege.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author and new book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give” are being featured at the New York Book Expo new titles showcase on May 29-June 1, 2013.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “Things that are good for us we should keep close. Fear is not, so why let it get next to you?”

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"Things that are good for us we should keep close. Fear is 
not, so why let it get next to you?" By Tonja Wicks 
Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of 
"You're the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women 
Don't Give."

Reason of the Day: We like to keep company with people who amuse us, encourage us,  entertain us, etc. These are all great things. They are usually our mates, family, friends, and acquaintances. These are the types of things and people that can catapult us to our rightful destinies and attain our dreams.

On the flip side, we also know that the greatest hindrance to success and happiness is “fear”- fear of failing, fear of success, fear of the unknown-and the list goes on. So, if the previous list of things and people are those we should keep close to us, why do we keep letting “fear” get “next” to us??? If we allow it in our space it will dominate. Only the things you let near you can bother you. So don’t let fear get next to you, instead act as if it’s not there and focus on the positive things in your life that encourage you and bring you joy.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give”, we encourage our readers to throw fear out and act as if it doesn’t exist. Once you quiet the voice of fear you begin to hear a louder voice of “I can”: I can love more, I can say a kind word to my mate first, I can initiate intimacy, and I can make that change in my life and relationship. Fear is not you friend.., Faith is…

The Author and new best-selling book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give” are being featured at the New York Book Expo’s “new title showcase” on May 29-June 1, 2013 in New York City.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “Faith is not just hoping something happens; it’s believing it already has.” By Tonja Wicks

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“Faith is not just hoping something happens; it’s believing it already has.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day: You have to first make up in your mind, soul and spirit that what you’re believing for is going to happen. You can just hope on some days and wish on others. You have to be determined in your heart to see that dream become a reality and come to fruition, no matter what the circumstances look like. Your belief in that “thing” has to be unwavering.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that if you’re waiting on that soul mate to show up, you have to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he or she is coming. We suggest visualizing the outcome of love that you desire and fixate on that. Negative thoughts will try to come in your mind to cast doubt, but you must fixate back on the vision of that soul mate, passion you desire to get back in your relationship, or new journey in life you want to embark on. Our thoughts become desires, our desires become hopes, our hopes become beliefs, and our unwavering beliefs can become manifested reality.

The Author and book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give” will be featured at the New York Book Expo “New Titles” Showcase May 29-June 1, 2013 in New York City.  

The authors were also was featured and conducted book discussion and signing at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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