Relationship Advice Blog: “Integrity is not what you do, it’s what you WON’T do.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-Selling Author

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QUOTE: Integrity is not what you do, it’s what you WON’T do.

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day: Many people falsely believe that integrity is associated with what you do. But, in fact, integrity, as I see it, is what you won’t do whether people are watching or not.

For instance, in politics, some candidates are willing to win their elections at any cost. They will lie, cheat, slander someone’s name– you name it. Those individuals that engage in such practices do NOT have integrity.

A person that chooses to run a clean campaign, absent all of those shenanigans, has integrity. Again, integrity is not what you will do but what you WON’T. The same goes for relationships.

A Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers that fidelity and commitment to another demonstrates integrity. The choice not to cheat on a mate is a sign that one possesses some form of integrity. If the relationship is not working and seems irreparable, the choice to take the high road and end the relationship before the cheating begins is a decision guided by personal integrity.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if you get caught cheating in elections or relationships, you will still have to live with the knowledge that you lack integrity.  It’s not what you do when people are watching, it’s what you do when they’re not.

 

The Author, Tonja Wicks,  will be a featured speaker at the 2014 So Cal Women’s Health Expo in October. Tonja Wicks will also be a featured speaker on relationships on the EVS Network Virtual Teleconference in February, alongside TV Judge Glenda Hatchett, Life Coach, Christina Young, Psychologist, Dr. Gloria Morrow, and conference creator, Sharon Jarrett.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

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Relationship Advice Blog: “Use What’s in Your Hand.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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QUOTE: “Use what’s in your hand.”

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day:  GOD has equipped each one of us with gifts, talents and treasures that we may not have tapped into. Many times the answer to our prayers is already in our hands, minds and body. So use what is already in your hands.

A Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers to exhaust every option that they can control before seeking their mate to make a change. We must first work on ourselves—because we all still need work– before we can demand of others.

In doing so, we advise to use what’s in your hand, because we all possess great and infinite potential. If you’re happy with yourself and what you create and accomplish, you will be confident to cheer and encourage your mate to achieve his/her best life. It all starts with you. If not, you will be the reason you man cheats….

The Author, Tonja Wicks,  will be a featured speaker on relationships on the EVS Network Virtual Teleconference in February, alongside TV Judge Glenda Hatchett, Life Coach, Christina Young, Psychologist, Dr. Gloria Morrow, and conference creator, Sharon Jarrett.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “Worrying is a choice. Troubles come to every life but worries come only to those who decide to dwell on them.” By Tonja Wicks

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“Worrying is a choice. Troubles come to every life but worries come only to those who decide to dwell on them.”

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day: While life will not always be a bed of roses, the trials of life can be managed and overcome if we spend our time finding solutions instead of excuses. Worry and regret stills our joy. We worry because we usually get stuck in inaction and accept the trial or problem as permanent. Most problems are temporary until we get crippled by worry and choose not to act and change our way out of the situation.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers to assess the relationship and then take action to change themselves and thus the relationship. However, the easiest way to stop yourself from action is to get mired in worry and regret. You worry because you do not take control of your situation and attempt to change it. You can’t wait for someone else to change first. You must change your situation first by changing the way you think, speak, act and feel.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “The future you desire is already present; it must first be present in your mind before it can ever be present in time. ” By Author Tonja Wicks

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“The future you desire is already present; it must first be present in your mind before it can ever be present in time. ” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day:  There is a scripture in the “Good Book” that says, “write the vision and make it plain…for the vision is yet for an appointed time.” In order for your future to manifest you have to see in your mind how it will look. In order to keep that vision of your future you must write it down, paint it, take a picture of it so it remains in the forefront of your sight and thoughts. If you don’t memorialize your dreams and visions, they will constantly change and never fully be obtained.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise readers to close their eyes and visualize the relationship they want to have: How do you want your mate to speak to you, kiss you, make love to you, support you, etc. Also, you must also visualize how you see yourself responding to your mate. Now the expectation is set, now add belief and determination, and the manifestation will come.

We believe you can have whatever it is you pray and believe for, e.g. perfect mate, perfect relationship, dream job, new business, book deal, etc.

Book Appearances: The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” will be featured at the upcoming NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “When you look over your life don’t boast about how much you worked but how much you loved.” By Tonja Wicks

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“When you look over your life don’t boast about  how much you worked but how much you loved.”

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day:  It is important to constantly evaluate your life and ask yourself am I truly happy. The answer to that question should set a course in your life to pursue what makes you happy or continue doing the things that are currently making you happy. If the answer to the question is NO, then what are you willing to do to claim your happiness? True happiness usually involves loving someone, i.e. yourself, your mate, your family, etc.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that you should constantly reevaluate what you spend your time doing. The priority should be spending time with your mate or loved one. If you think you don’t have time, you may need to cut back on outside activities in order to devote the time needed to nurture the relationship. We like to ask in the book, are you willing to do whatever it takes to be happy in the relationship?

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1. What do you consider important?

2. What box do you fall in?

3. Are you able to boast about both the work you accomplished and the people you loved?

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” will be featured at the upcoming NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “The things you feel are wrong with your life didn’t happen all of a sudden so don’t expect everything to change overnight. Change, too, is a gradual process. However the ‘decision’ to change and be happy is immediate.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“The things you feel are wrong with your life didn’t happen all of a sudden so don’t expect everything to change overnight. Change, too, is a gradual process. However the ‘decision’ to change and be happy is immediate.”

Reason of the Day: Change first happens in the mind. You must first accept that there are areas that need change in your life and determine in your mind that you are willing to do what it takes to make that change your new reality. The change and happiness you seek won’t come over night; just like the dysfunction didn’t happen overnight. However, the decision to make the change and be happy can and should be immediate. Make the decision right now.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers that you must acknowledge the dysfunction in your relationship and determine in your mind to change it. We ask are you willing to do whatever it takes to change the situation and grasp your happiness. If the answer is YES, you are well on your way to the love and relationship of your dreams. If your answer is NO, or many excuses follow, you are destined for heartache and unhappiness. Why live and love beneath you privilege.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author and new book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give” are being featured at the New York Book Expo new titles showcase on May 29-June 1, 2013.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “Things that are good for us we should keep close. Fear is not, so why let it get next to you?”

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"Things that are good for us we should keep close. Fear is 
not, so why let it get next to you?" By Tonja Wicks 
Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of 
"You're the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women 
Don't Give."

Reason of the Day: We like to keep company with people who amuse us, encourage us,  entertain us, etc. These are all great things. They are usually our mates, family, friends, and acquaintances. These are the types of things and people that can catapult us to our rightful destinies and attain our dreams.

On the flip side, we also know that the greatest hindrance to success and happiness is “fear”- fear of failing, fear of success, fear of the unknown-and the list goes on. So, if the previous list of things and people are those we should keep close to us, why do we keep letting “fear” get “next” to us??? If we allow it in our space it will dominate. Only the things you let near you can bother you. So don’t let fear get next to you, instead act as if it’s not there and focus on the positive things in your life that encourage you and bring you joy.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give”, we encourage our readers to throw fear out and act as if it doesn’t exist. Once you quiet the voice of fear you begin to hear a louder voice of “I can”: I can love more, I can say a kind word to my mate first, I can initiate intimacy, and I can make that change in my life and relationship. Fear is not you friend.., Faith is…

The Author and new best-selling book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give” are being featured at the New York Book Expo’s “new title showcase” on May 29-June 1, 2013 in New York City.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: ” Life is not a straight path so when it doesn’t seem to be going your way, keep walking; life will eventually swerve back into your pathway if you don’t give up.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

 

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“ Life is not a straight path so when it doesn't seem to be going your way, keep walking; life will eventually swerve back into your pathway if you don't give up."  

Reason of the Day: Life may not be perfect but it is still happening. If you continue to move forward each day and pursue the passions placed in you, eventually you will see progress. The thing you have to do is not give up.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that we may not be able to change another person or a circumstance, but if we take a look at self and identify any areas that can be enhanced with change, we can change our outlook. Small changes we make can make others examine their behavior and actions and want to change too.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “In the end, success is not measured by the title you hold but by the lives you impact.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“In the end, success is not measured by the title you hold but by the lives you impact.”

Reason of the Day: The ultimate goal here on earth should be to positively impact a life or the lives of many. It’s wonderful to be abundantly blessed financially,  but if you keep those riches to yourself and never seek to help others with your great fortune, you will never realize the true potential of your life’s purpose.

While money is one of society’s measurements of success, the way you spend your time is also a measurement. You do not need to have millions in the bank to impact and change a life. The time you spend with a child, the elderly, loved ones, or even conversation and assistance to strangers in need, defines success.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that time spent with your mate can’t be replaced. It is imperative that we make time to be with the mate we chose. It’s in those shared moments that intimate dialogue and physical affection can result.

A happy and fulfilled relationship is another measurement of success. It takes commitment, dedication, understanding and compromise to achieve. And the impact you have on that life and the lives that may flow from that relationship will be seen by the world for generations to come.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “A smile and a laugh tell the world you’re happy; it also tells your heart to be too.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“A smile and a laugh tell the world you’re happy; it also tells your heart to be too.”

Reason of the Day: Remember, you control what feelings you hold on to and display. You make the choice to be happy regardless of what is happening around you. Let old hurts, feelings, and memories go and move forward with renewed love, joy, and happiness.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that if you show love, joy and happiness, others directly around you will receive it, be blessed by it, and likely return it. The choice to act lies with you. Many times we don’t show love or choose to be happy for fear the result won’t be what we expect. We say GET OVER YOURSELF!!

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.” The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join our next the book discussion and book signing. For more information check our website at www.yourethereason.com.

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