Relationship Advice Blog: “Integrity is not what you do, it’s what you WON’T do.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-Selling Author

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QUOTE: Integrity is not what you do, it’s what you WON’T do.

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day: Many people falsely believe that integrity is associated with what you do. But, in fact, integrity, as I see it, is what you won’t do whether people are watching or not.

For instance, in politics, some candidates are willing to win their elections at any cost. They will lie, cheat, slander someone’s name– you name it. Those individuals that engage in such practices do NOT have integrity.

A person that chooses to run a clean campaign, absent all of those shenanigans, has integrity. Again, integrity is not what you will do but what you WON’T. The same goes for relationships.

A Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers that fidelity and commitment to another demonstrates integrity. The choice not to cheat on a mate is a sign that one possesses some form of integrity. If the relationship is not working and seems irreparable, the choice to take the high road and end the relationship before the cheating begins is a decision guided by personal integrity.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if you get caught cheating in elections or relationships, you will still have to live with the knowledge that you lack integrity.  It’s not what you do when people are watching, it’s what you do when they’re not.

 

The Author, Tonja Wicks,  will be a featured speaker at the 2014 So Cal Women’s Health Expo in October. Tonja Wicks will also be a featured speaker on relationships on the EVS Network Virtual Teleconference in February, alongside TV Judge Glenda Hatchett, Life Coach, Christina Young, Psychologist, Dr. Gloria Morrow, and conference creator, Sharon Jarrett.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “Destiny isn’t a destination; it’s more like a journey down a never-ending road that you pull over from time to time to experience the fulfillment of your heart’s desires. By Author Tonja Wicks

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“Destiny isn’t a destination; it’s more like a journey down a never-ending road that you pull over from time  to time to experience the fulfillment of your heart’s desires. By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day: If you’re waiting for your destiny to hit you in the head you’ll be waiting a long time. I believe you walk into your destiny. So in order to do that you have to keep going through life one step at a time until you reach it, live through it and come out of it into its next enhanced phase. The culmination of these joyful experiences is your destiny. Once you attain what you’ve desired, a new desire will be placed in your spirit and this the journey continues.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that finding that perfect loving relationship is like destiny. You don’t just get to it and rest and say ureka! I’ve conquered the mountain. You must continue to nurture the relationship and enjoy the experience. In order to do that we say you must keep the relationship as fresh and new as the first day you met your mate. That means remembering some of those same loving things you used to do and do them again. We all like what we first fell in love with, i.e., constant compliments, affection and attention. So why would you think your mate doesn’t want those same things anymore? Right… He or she does. So continue to walk the journey… you will the happier for it on this road of destiny.

The Author and new book, , “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.” Will be featured at the upcoming  New York Book Expo of America “New Title Showcase” on  May 29-June 1.

The Author was also  featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “The things you feel are wrong with your life didn’t happen all of a sudden so don’t expect everything to change overnight. Change, too, is a gradual process. However the ‘decision’ to change and be happy is immediate.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“The things you feel are wrong with your life didn’t happen all of a sudden so don’t expect everything to change overnight. Change, too, is a gradual process. However the ‘decision’ to change and be happy is immediate.”

Reason of the Day: Change first happens in the mind. You must first accept that there are areas that need change in your life and determine in your mind that you are willing to do what it takes to make that change your new reality. The change and happiness you seek won’t come over night; just like the dysfunction didn’t happen overnight. However, the decision to make the change and be happy can and should be immediate. Make the decision right now.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers that you must acknowledge the dysfunction in your relationship and determine in your mind to change it. We ask are you willing to do whatever it takes to change the situation and grasp your happiness. If the answer is YES, you are well on your way to the love and relationship of your dreams. If your answer is NO, or many excuses follow, you are destined for heartache and unhappiness. Why live and love beneath you privilege.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author and new book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give” are being featured at the New York Book Expo new titles showcase on May 29-June 1, 2013.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

Share your thoughts on our website at http://www.yourethereason.com

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “Things that are good for us we should keep close. Fear is not, so why let it get next to you?”

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"Things that are good for us we should keep close. Fear is 
not, so why let it get next to you?" By Tonja Wicks 
Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of 
"You're the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women 
Don't Give."

Reason of the Day: We like to keep company with people who amuse us, encourage us,  entertain us, etc. These are all great things. They are usually our mates, family, friends, and acquaintances. These are the types of things and people that can catapult us to our rightful destinies and attain our dreams.

On the flip side, we also know that the greatest hindrance to success and happiness is “fear”- fear of failing, fear of success, fear of the unknown-and the list goes on. So, if the previous list of things and people are those we should keep close to us, why do we keep letting “fear” get “next” to us??? If we allow it in our space it will dominate. Only the things you let near you can bother you. So don’t let fear get next to you, instead act as if it’s not there and focus on the positive things in your life that encourage you and bring you joy.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give”, we encourage our readers to throw fear out and act as if it doesn’t exist. Once you quiet the voice of fear you begin to hear a louder voice of “I can”: I can love more, I can say a kind word to my mate first, I can initiate intimacy, and I can make that change in my life and relationship. Fear is not you friend.., Faith is…

The Author and new best-selling book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give” are being featured at the New York Book Expo’s “new title showcase” on May 29-June 1, 2013 in New York City.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “Don’t hold onto past memories rather let them flow thru your mind freely; if you hold onto your past you won’t be free to grab onto your future.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“Don’t hold onto past memories rather let them flow thru your mind freely; if you hold onto your past you won’t be free to grab onto your future.”

Reason of the Day: The past is full of positive and negative experiences. While the bad memories are ones we’d like to forget, however, every time we think on them we tend to relive the bad experience. Let it go!

We shouldn’t hold onto the good memories either. When we focus or get too attached to the past, good or bad, we tend to compare every new experience to them. Let memories come and go freely through your mind.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that just because an experience is not the same or a person isn’t like the last one you dated, it is not a bad thing. While there were probably good memories with an old mate or relationship, there was still something missing or not quite complete because you’re not with them or in that relationship anymore. Don’t hold onto the memory, hold out for your new future which could look and be very different than your past.

Even if you find your future looks similar to your past, it ain’t the same. No two moments or people are exactly alike. So, reach for that something “new” and hold into it!

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “Action gets things done; thinking just gets you thinking about doing something.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“Action gets things done; thinking just gets you thinking about doing something.”

Reason of the Day: The truth is that once you act, the Universe responds to your faith in action and pushes you even further toward your dreams. STOP thinking about acting and just act! Regardless of the outcome, you will be better for it.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we coach that you must “get over yourself!” Many times we don’t act because we are afraid of what someone will say, not say, do or not do. It is simply fear. Fear can cripple people and keep them stuck in dysfunction.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”
The Author will be featured at the upcoming Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Blog Advice of the Day: “You can change your relationship with a touch. A touch not only stimulates the body, it opens the heart.” By best-selling author and Motivational Speaker Tonja Wicks

Affection is key to maintaining a healthy and passionate relationship. We talk about this in our best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.” It’s a fact, Men and women need affection. So why are you denying yourself and your mate an innate human desire and need?

Let us know your relationship issues and we will provide helpful love coaching advice at http://www.yourethereason.com

By Author, Life Coach and Motivational Speaker, Tonja Wicks
“You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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Relationship Blog: “Words don’t drip like water and they can’t be wiped up once spilled. Once the mess is gone, the words still live forever in the minds of those receiving them.” By Best-Selling Author and motivational Speaker, Tonja Wicks

Reason of the Day: Be mindful of how you talk to your loved ones. In our best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give”, we like to ask the question: How are you talking to and touching your mate? The first question is the one I’m addressing today. What you say may be the last words someone hears. Make sure it is a loving and encouraging one. It’s a choice to be kind and loving. Remember- what you give out is what you get back.

In the book, we call this one of the “3Fs of the Love Strategy”. If you follow the 3Fs, you are destined to attract, catch and keep the mate of your dreams. By Tonja Wicks, Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give”

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“If you encourage others to pursue their dreams, you can actually motivate yourself to pursue your own” by Tonja Wicks
Author of You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give” available at http://www.yourethereason.com

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