Relationship Advice Blog: “Integrity is not what you do, it’s what you WON’T do.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-Selling Author

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QUOTE: Integrity is not what you do, it’s what you WON’T do.

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day: Many people falsely believe that integrity is associated with what you do. But, in fact, integrity, as I see it, is what you won’t do whether people are watching or not.

For instance, in politics, some candidates are willing to win their elections at any cost. They will lie, cheat, slander someone’s name– you name it. Those individuals that engage in such practices do NOT have integrity.

A person that chooses to run a clean campaign, absent all of those shenanigans, has integrity. Again, integrity is not what you will do but what you WON’T. The same goes for relationships.

A Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers that fidelity and commitment to another demonstrates integrity. The choice not to cheat on a mate is a sign that one possesses some form of integrity. If the relationship is not working and seems irreparable, the choice to take the high road and end the relationship before the cheating begins is a decision guided by personal integrity.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if you get caught cheating in elections or relationships, you will still have to live with the knowledge that you lack integrity.  It’s not what you do when people are watching, it’s what you do when they’re not.

 

The Author, Tonja Wicks,  will be a featured speaker at the 2014 So Cal Women’s Health Expo in October. Tonja Wicks will also be a featured speaker on relationships on the EVS Network Virtual Teleconference in February, alongside TV Judge Glenda Hatchett, Life Coach, Christina Young, Psychologist, Dr. Gloria Morrow, and conference creator, Sharon Jarrett.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

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Relationship Advice Blog: “Use What’s in Your Hand.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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QUOTE: “Use what’s in your hand.”

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day:  GOD has equipped each one of us with gifts, talents and treasures that we may not have tapped into. Many times the answer to our prayers is already in our hands, minds and body. So use what is already in your hands.

A Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers to exhaust every option that they can control before seeking their mate to make a change. We must first work on ourselves—because we all still need work– before we can demand of others.

In doing so, we advise to use what’s in your hand, because we all possess great and infinite potential. If you’re happy with yourself and what you create and accomplish, you will be confident to cheer and encourage your mate to achieve his/her best life. It all starts with you. If not, you will be the reason you man cheats….

The Author, Tonja Wicks,  will be a featured speaker on relationships on the EVS Network Virtual Teleconference in February, alongside TV Judge Glenda Hatchett, Life Coach, Christina Young, Psychologist, Dr. Gloria Morrow, and conference creator, Sharon Jarrett.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

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Relationship Advice Blog: “Never leave the words ‘I LOVE YOU’ left unsaid”, By Author and Motivational Speaker, Tonja Wicks

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“Never leave the words ‘I LOVE YOU’ left unsaid”

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day:  We all regret things we may have done or should have done in the past.  The greatest regret one feels is over a lost love or love not realized. Don’t let fear, time, distance or pride keep you from telling another that you love them. Be true to thyself. Don’t worry how it will be received.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers to examine their own actions and motives. What you do in a relationship should not be contingent upon what your partner does or does not do. Your loving actions and behavior can set the tone for a renewed and passionate encounter and relationship. Sometimes one partner is waiting for the other to demonstrate love first.

If you feel it in your heart–act it out. As the Good Book says, “Desire deferred makes the heart sick; love fulfilled is like a tree of life.” Don’t hurt yourself trying to hurt another. In the end, you will be filled with regret. Be confident in knowing that you weren’t the reason the relationship didn’t have an opportunity to flourish. Don’t keep the words ‘I LOVE YOU’ to yourself.

The Author will be a featured speaker on relationships on the EVS Network Virtual Teleconference in February, alongside TV Judge Glenda Hatchett, Life Coach, Christina Young, Psychologist, Dr. Gloria Morrow, and conference creator, Sharon Jarrett.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “Age is just a number we count yearly; life is an experience you live daily. What are you counting?” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“Age is just a number we count yearly; life is an experience you live daily. What are you counting?”

Reason of the Day: As I plan my great aunt pearl’s 100th birthday celebration, I realize that age is just a number we get hung up on in our younger years. When you get to be 100, and not all will be that blessed, and you’re in good mental and physical health, it’s the experiences you’ve lived through not the number of years that counts.

Aunt Pearl has some great memories. She often fixates on a select few of them because they brought joy and laughter. So, as my family and friends celebrate this wonderful woman at a 100th birthday dinner celebration in her honor tomorrow, April 13th, I will forever be reminded to count life’s experiences not age.

Pearlie wanted to celebrate at her favorite soul food restaurant in Inglewood, CA, M & M’s Mississippi Soul Food. Aunt Pearl is from MS and loves her chittlins, fried catfish and corn bread.

I pray longevity is in the genes.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that “It’s never too late to start something new.” Start living more, loving more, and start trusting more. Things can’t change if you don’t.

My Aunt just realized she likes bingo. Go figure… I thought all seasoned individuals liked bingo… If she can start something new at 100, you have no excuse.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author ‘s new book will be feature in the “new book release showcase” at the New York Book Expo, May 30-June 1. The author conducted book discussion and book signing at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “Don’t hold onto past memories rather let them flow thru your mind freely; if you hold onto your past you won’t be free to grab onto your future.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“Don’t hold onto past memories rather let them flow thru your mind freely; if you hold onto your past you won’t be free to grab onto your future.”

Reason of the Day: The past is full of positive and negative experiences. While the bad memories are ones we’d like to forget, however, every time we think on them we tend to relive the bad experience. Let it go!

We shouldn’t hold onto the good memories either. When we focus or get too attached to the past, good or bad, we tend to compare every new experience to them. Let memories come and go freely through your mind.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that just because an experience is not the same or a person isn’t like the last one you dated, it is not a bad thing. While there were probably good memories with an old mate or relationship, there was still something missing or not quite complete because you’re not with them or in that relationship anymore. Don’t hold onto the memory, hold out for your new future which could look and be very different than your past.

Even if you find your future looks similar to your past, it ain’t the same. No two moments or people are exactly alike. So, reach for that something “new” and hold into it!

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: ” Life is not a straight path so when it doesn’t seem to be going your way, keep walking; life will eventually swerve back into your pathway if you don’t give up.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

 

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“ Life is not a straight path so when it doesn't seem to be going your way, keep walking; life will eventually swerve back into your pathway if you don't give up."  

Reason of the Day: Life may not be perfect but it is still happening. If you continue to move forward each day and pursue the passions placed in you, eventually you will see progress. The thing you have to do is not give up.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that we may not be able to change another person or a circumstance, but if we take a look at self and identify any areas that can be enhanced with change, we can change our outlook. Small changes we make can make others examine their behavior and actions and want to change too.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “In the end, success is not measured by the title you hold but by the lives you impact.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“In the end, success is not measured by the title you hold but by the lives you impact.”

Reason of the Day: The ultimate goal here on earth should be to positively impact a life or the lives of many. It’s wonderful to be abundantly blessed financially,  but if you keep those riches to yourself and never seek to help others with your great fortune, you will never realize the true potential of your life’s purpose.

While money is one of society’s measurements of success, the way you spend your time is also a measurement. You do not need to have millions in the bank to impact and change a life. The time you spend with a child, the elderly, loved ones, or even conversation and assistance to strangers in need, defines success.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that time spent with your mate can’t be replaced. It is imperative that we make time to be with the mate we chose. It’s in those shared moments that intimate dialogue and physical affection can result.

A happy and fulfilled relationship is another measurement of success. It takes commitment, dedication, understanding and compromise to achieve. And the impact you have on that life and the lives that may flow from that relationship will be seen by the world for generations to come.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “A smile and a laugh tell the world you’re happy; it also tells your heart to be too.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“A smile and a laugh tell the world you’re happy; it also tells your heart to be too.”

Reason of the Day: Remember, you control what feelings you hold on to and display. You make the choice to be happy regardless of what is happening around you. Let old hurts, feelings, and memories go and move forward with renewed love, joy, and happiness.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that if you show love, joy and happiness, others directly around you will receive it, be blessed by it, and likely return it. The choice to act lies with you. Many times we don’t show love or choose to be happy for fear the result won’t be what we expect. We say GET OVER YOURSELF!!

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.” The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join our next the book discussion and book signing. For more information check our website at www.yourethereason.com.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “Men and women were not meant to be alone. Don’t deny yourself true fulfillment by denying yourself a true connection with another, albeit love, friendship, or kinship”. “By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“Men and women were not meant to be alone. Don’t deny yourself true fulfillment by denying yourself a true connection with another, albeit love, friendship, or kinship”.

Reason of the Day: Humans thrive on the presence, companionship and touch of another.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we propose women and men implement the “3Fs of our Love Strategy”. One vital component critical to the success and vitality of any romantic relationship is to show and give affection. In the book, we call it the 3rd F–“Feeling” your mate. Physical affection awakens the emotions and the senses of another. So why deny yourself and your mate that opportunity.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author will be featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing on Saturday. For more information log onto out website at http://www.yourethereason.com

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “Spring symbolizes love; like a flower that blooms in springtime, love appears and changes form as it matures in its own season.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“Spring symbolizes love; like a flower that blooms in springtime, love appears and changes form as it matures in its own season.”

Reason of the Day: Love doesn’t come every day. True love comes in its due season.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we have chapters especially for singles. For our singles, I advise, “let your season come; just like winter turned to spring today, the Universe will turn your season of singleness into one of blissful mating and marriage if you allow it to come naturally.”

We ask in the book,  Did you wait for your season and your “right” love mate to come along or did you just settle for any old body to say you have a mate? The difference in the answer is the difference between a happy and joyous relationship and one filled with pain, heartache and displeasure.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author will be featured at the upcoming Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing. For more information log onto out website at http://www.yourethereason.com

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