Relationship Advice Blog: “Integrity is not what you do, it’s what you WON’T do.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-Selling Author

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QUOTE: Integrity is not what you do, it’s what you WON’T do.

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day: Many people falsely believe that integrity is associated with what you do. But, in fact, integrity, as I see it, is what you won’t do whether people are watching or not.

For instance, in politics, some candidates are willing to win their elections at any cost. They will lie, cheat, slander someone’s name– you name it. Those individuals that engage in such practices do NOT have integrity.

A person that chooses to run a clean campaign, absent all of those shenanigans, has integrity. Again, integrity is not what you will do but what you WON’T. The same goes for relationships.

A Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers that fidelity and commitment to another demonstrates integrity. The choice not to cheat on a mate is a sign that one possesses some form of integrity. If the relationship is not working and seems irreparable, the choice to take the high road and end the relationship before the cheating begins is a decision guided by personal integrity.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if you get caught cheating in elections or relationships, you will still have to live with the knowledge that you lack integrity.  It’s not what you do when people are watching, it’s what you do when they’re not.

 

The Author, Tonja Wicks,  will be a featured speaker at the 2014 So Cal Women’s Health Expo in October. Tonja Wicks will also be a featured speaker on relationships on the EVS Network Virtual Teleconference in February, alongside TV Judge Glenda Hatchett, Life Coach, Christina Young, Psychologist, Dr. Gloria Morrow, and conference creator, Sharon Jarrett.

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” was featured at the NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “The future you desire is already present; it must first be present in your mind before it can ever be present in time. ” By Author Tonja Wicks

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“The future you desire is already present; it must first be present in your mind before it can ever be present in time. ” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day:  There is a scripture in the “Good Book” that says, “write the vision and make it plain…for the vision is yet for an appointed time.” In order for your future to manifest you have to see in your mind how it will look. In order to keep that vision of your future you must write it down, paint it, take a picture of it so it remains in the forefront of your sight and thoughts. If you don’t memorialize your dreams and visions, they will constantly change and never fully be obtained.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise readers to close their eyes and visualize the relationship they want to have: How do you want your mate to speak to you, kiss you, make love to you, support you, etc. Also, you must also visualize how you see yourself responding to your mate. Now the expectation is set, now add belief and determination, and the manifestation will come.

We believe you can have whatever it is you pray and believe for, e.g. perfect mate, perfect relationship, dream job, new business, book deal, etc.

Book Appearances: The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” will be featured at the upcoming NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “When you look over your life don’t boast about how much you worked but how much you loved.” By Tonja Wicks

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“When you look over your life don’t boast about  how much you worked but how much you loved.”

By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day:  It is important to constantly evaluate your life and ask yourself am I truly happy. The answer to that question should set a course in your life to pursue what makes you happy or continue doing the things that are currently making you happy. If the answer to the question is NO, then what are you willing to do to claim your happiness? True happiness usually involves loving someone, i.e. yourself, your mate, your family, etc.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that you should constantly reevaluate what you spend your time doing. The priority should be spending time with your mate or loved one. If you think you don’t have time, you may need to cut back on outside activities in order to devote the time needed to nurture the relationship. We like to ask in the book, are you willing to do whatever it takes to be happy in the relationship?

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1. What do you consider important?

2. What box do you fall in?

3. Are you able to boast about both the work you accomplished and the people you loved?

The Author and new book “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” will be featured at the upcoming NY Book Expo of America on May 29-June 1 in New York, NY.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “Destiny isn’t a destination; it’s more like a journey down a never-ending road that you pull over from time to time to experience the fulfillment of your heart’s desires. By Author Tonja Wicks

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“Destiny isn’t a destination; it’s more like a journey down a never-ending road that you pull over from time  to time to experience the fulfillment of your heart’s desires. By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

Reason of the Day: If you’re waiting for your destiny to hit you in the head you’ll be waiting a long time. I believe you walk into your destiny. So in order to do that you have to keep going through life one step at a time until you reach it, live through it and come out of it into its next enhanced phase. The culmination of these joyful experiences is your destiny. Once you attain what you’ve desired, a new desire will be placed in your spirit and this the journey continues.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that finding that perfect loving relationship is like destiny. You don’t just get to it and rest and say ureka! I’ve conquered the mountain. You must continue to nurture the relationship and enjoy the experience. In order to do that we say you must keep the relationship as fresh and new as the first day you met your mate. That means remembering some of those same loving things you used to do and do them again. We all like what we first fell in love with, i.e., constant compliments, affection and attention. So why would you think your mate doesn’t want those same things anymore? Right… He or she does. So continue to walk the journey… you will the happier for it on this road of destiny.

The Author and new book, , “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.” Will be featured at the upcoming  New York Book Expo of America “New Title Showcase” on  May 29-June 1.

The Author was also  featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Advice of the Day: “The things you feel are wrong with your life didn’t happen all of a sudden so don’t expect everything to change overnight. Change, too, is a gradual process. However the ‘decision’ to change and be happy is immediate.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“The things you feel are wrong with your life didn’t happen all of a sudden so don’t expect everything to change overnight. Change, too, is a gradual process. However the ‘decision’ to change and be happy is immediate.”

Reason of the Day: Change first happens in the mind. You must first accept that there are areas that need change in your life and determine in your mind that you are willing to do what it takes to make that change your new reality. The change and happiness you seek won’t come over night; just like the dysfunction didn’t happen overnight. However, the decision to make the change and be happy can and should be immediate. Make the decision right now.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise our readers that you must acknowledge the dysfunction in your relationship and determine in your mind to change it. We ask are you willing to do whatever it takes to change the situation and grasp your happiness. If the answer is YES, you are well on your way to the love and relationship of your dreams. If your answer is NO, or many excuses follow, you are destined for heartache and unhappiness. Why live and love beneath you privilege.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author and new book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give” are being featured at the New York Book Expo new titles showcase on May 29-June 1, 2013.

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “Don’t hold onto past memories rather let them flow thru your mind freely; if you hold onto your past you won’t be free to grab onto your future.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“Don’t hold onto past memories rather let them flow thru your mind freely; if you hold onto your past you won’t be free to grab onto your future.”

Reason of the Day: The past is full of positive and negative experiences. While the bad memories are ones we’d like to forget, however, every time we think on them we tend to relive the bad experience. Let it go!

We shouldn’t hold onto the good memories either. When we focus or get too attached to the past, good or bad, we tend to compare every new experience to them. Let memories come and go freely through your mind.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that just because an experience is not the same or a person isn’t like the last one you dated, it is not a bad thing. While there were probably good memories with an old mate or relationship, there was still something missing or not quite complete because you’re not with them or in that relationship anymore. Don’t hold onto the memory, hold out for your new future which could look and be very different than your past.

Even if you find your future looks similar to your past, it ain’t the same. No two moments or people are exactly alike. So, reach for that something “new” and hold into it!

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at a future book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “In the end, success is not measured by the title you hold but by the lives you impact.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“In the end, success is not measured by the title you hold but by the lives you impact.”

Reason of the Day: The ultimate goal here on earth should be to positively impact a life or the lives of many. It’s wonderful to be abundantly blessed financially,  but if you keep those riches to yourself and never seek to help others with your great fortune, you will never realize the true potential of your life’s purpose.

While money is one of society’s measurements of success, the way you spend your time is also a measurement. You do not need to have millions in the bank to impact and change a life. The time you spend with a child, the elderly, loved ones, or even conversation and assistance to strangers in need, defines success.

Little Book Advice: In our book, You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that time spent with your mate can’t be replaced. It is imperative that we make time to be with the mate we chose. It’s in those shared moments that intimate dialogue and physical affection can result.

A happy and fulfilled relationship is another measurement of success. It takes commitment, dedication, understanding and compromise to achieve. And the impact you have on that life and the lives that may flow from that relationship will be seen by the world for generations to come.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author was featured at the Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “Spring symbolizes love; like a flower that blooms in springtime, love appears and changes form as it matures in its own season.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“Spring symbolizes love; like a flower that blooms in springtime, love appears and changes form as it matures in its own season.”

Reason of the Day: Love doesn’t come every day. True love comes in its due season.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we have chapters especially for singles. For our singles, I advise, “let your season come; just like winter turned to spring today, the Universe will turn your season of singleness into one of blissful mating and marriage if you allow it to come naturally.”

We ask in the book,  Did you wait for your season and your “right” love mate to come along or did you just settle for any old body to say you have a mate? The difference in the answer is the difference between a happy and joyous relationship and one filled with pain, heartache and displeasure.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author will be featured at the upcoming Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing. For more information log onto out website at http://www.yourethereason.com

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “Opportunities come to everyone; it’s those that are prepared that turn opportunities into successes.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“Opportunities come to everyone; it’s those that are prepared that turn opportunities into successes”

Reason of the Day: The question is: If the right opportunity came today, would you be able to capitalize on it? The Good Book says to “be prepared in and out of season”. Although your season may not be here, are you prepared for what it is you dream and desire to have? What are you doing today to achieve your goals, for example, lose weight, compete for that promotion, seek a new job, prepare yourself for the ideal mate, etc?

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we advise that you should do things to better yourself whether there is a man involved or not. When you feel good about you, that confidence exudes and attracts people to you.
By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

The Author will be featured at the upcoming Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing. For more information log onto out website at http://www.yourethereason.com

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Relationship Book Blog Advice of the Day: “Action gets things done; thinking just gets you thinking about doing something.” By Tonja Wicks Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and Best-selling Author of, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”

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“Action gets things done; thinking just gets you thinking about doing something.”

Reason of the Day: The truth is that once you act, the Universe responds to your faith in action and pushes you even further toward your dreams. STOP thinking about acting and just act! Regardless of the outcome, you will be better for it.

Little Book Advice: In our book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give,” we coach that you must “get over yourself!” Many times we don’t act because we are afraid of what someone will say, not say, do or not do. It is simply fear. Fear can cripple people and keep them stuck in dysfunction.

By Tonja Wicks, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach, and Author of the best-selling book, “You’re the Reason Your Man Cheats: What Men Want and Women Don’t Give.”
The Author will be featured at the upcoming Get Radical Women’s Conference at the Hyatt Hotel in Reston, VA March 22-24. Come out and join us at the book discussion and book signing.

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